When it is Hard to Find Confidence

Casual summer outfit for coffee shops, walks or spending time outside.

It’s been awhile since sharing a beauty and style post. I did not think much of it until Jake and I carved out some time to do a styled outfit shoot recently. While getting ready and taking the photos, something felt unnatural. I did not feel like myself and had a hard time getting into it like I normally do. We tried different poses, a variety of angles and spent time trying new things. I still felt uneasy. I realized It is very hard to portray confidence through photos when you do not feel confident in yourself.

For years, my platform for public speaking, social media and this blog has been rooted in natural beauty and self-confidence. Losing all my hair in middle school made me seriously consider how beauty is defined in our culture and take a stand against the misconceptions. I have consistently shared that beauty is so much more than hair and physical looks. Although I care about how I look and present myself, the heart of the matter comes down to being confident in myself and accepting who I naturally am. These are some of the core values that I stick to day to day, but I would be lying if I told you I didn’t struggle with self-image at all. Because I believe vulnerability is one of the truest forms of growth and trust, I want to give you a peak behind the scenes.

These past few months have been an uphill battle of continuing to love myself and be confident in who I am as I think everything opposite each time I look in the mirror. When you share about natural beauty so often, it is hard to admit to yourself when you aren’t living up to what you are encouraging others to do. The thing is, believing I am beautiful is not a journey towards perfection. All the perfectionists in the house, raise your hands (just for the record, both my hands and both feet are raised)! This journey is about learning to embrace the skin that is drier than it used to be, the pounds that were never there before and the fact that I could eat veggies for the rest of my days and not have a six pack (those are overrated anyways).

Being confident in our own skin is more than shouting to the world I love my body! It is the quiet, day to day acceptance of who we are to our cores and celebrating the healthy, real bodies we have been given. So instead of looking at these photos feeling uneasy or wanting to edit out the parts I don’t like, I am choosing to celebrate natural beauty and self-confidence.

Casual summer outfit for coffee shops, walks or spending time outside.Casual summer outfit for coffee shops, walks or spending time outside.Casual summer outfit for coffee shops, walks or spending time outside.Casual summer outfit for coffee shops, walks or spending time outside.Casual summer outfit for coffee shops, walks or spending time outside.

Laura Jean
  • Allie Crume

    Thank you for this!!! I gained a little weight studying abroad, and the day to day accepting that and being okay with my body is harder than I’d like to admit. It’s good to know I’m not alone. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your heart! The photos are beautiful and so are you!

    • Yes, I am right there with you! It is really hard to me to accept a changing body, but I am so thankful for health and wellness above skinniness and weight watching. Thank you for sharing your experiences!

  • YAY! girl. I love this!

  • You’re so sweet, Laura! I absolutely love this post and it relates to me so much! My body is much different than it was pre baby and I struggle with confidence! Your words touch my heart!

    • Susannah, this is so wonderful to hear. I am glad it resonated with you and thank you for sharing your struggles. We, as females, are in this together to find confidence even when it is hard!

  • Amen! There is a lot to be said for being comfortable in your own skin and letting your life reflect that. You are a beautiful person, both inside and out. <3

    • You are incredibly sweet and I really appreciate your words of affirmation, especially on a post that was vulnerable and difficult to write. XOXO

  • Bailey

    This post speaks to my heart! You are a beautiful person and have a beautiful soul. Thank you for this post!

    • You are welcome – so glad you connect with this post and these words! I love blogging for this very reason.

  • Just what I needed to read today!

  • Oh boy, did I need this! I have always struggled with body image issues, and I was able to lose 50+ pounds in 2014. I was so proud of myself and finally (finally!) happy with my body. I just had my son two months ago, though, and it’s like I’m back at square one. Obviously, I am giving myself grace after carrying a baby and bringing him into this world, but it kills me that I have to re-lose the weight now. I am grateful to you for posting this and reminding me that it’s all going to be okay. 🙂 PS You are adorable.

    • Maegan, you are so inspiring! Thank you for sharing a piece of your journey. Although I am not a mom, I can imagine the conflicting thoughts of being so proud of the baby you brought into the world, but also missing your pre-baby body! I am glad a lot of us are in the same boat, even at different stages of life. It is reassuring we are not in this alone. Much love to you!

  • This is a topic I am learning to embrace. I love the outfit, but more your transparency. Also can I say the location is so pretty. – Rebeca

  • LOVE! (I’d say more but it’s hard to see the keyboard through my tears). ❤️